Is It So Hard To Support Our Sisters?

I have been extremely blessed with the best girlfriends any girl could ever have!  I tend to attract beautiful souls, who are independent, strong, caring, very dynamic and extremely supportive of themselves and each other.  I guess that's why when I come across a woman who is unpleasant, obnoxious or nasty, which is not too often now a days, it's sometimes hard for me to understand the "why".  Now, I'm not perfect and I don't pretend to be.  I have a very strong character, some may say somewhat intense, I don't tolerate bullies, have no patience for ignorance and have no problems defending myself, never have.  But I do support my fellow sisters.  I am big on the supportive home front, as well as on the inspiration and motivation home fronts.  So, when I see a woman being unpleasant or hateful towards other women or myself, it's sad, but my first instinct is to give them a piece of my mind.  However lately, meaning the past few years, I find myself looking beyond the "character", the personality of that individual and sort of tuning into her state of mind.  I know this may sound a bit strange, but it's almost as if I'm able to see their personality, no matter how harsh, loud or obnoxious, as a costume.  A roll they play, like actors do and I'm able to tap into and see their TRUE self, who they are at their core.  Well, as you can imagine, this has stopped me from saying many things I would've undoubtedly regret later.  Instead, I've been more compassionate and able communicate more effectively without being offensive, yet getting my point across, while they reflect on their behavior.  Maybe because they were expecting some kind of verbal confrontation, but they got empathy and a voice of reason instead, it makes them take a long hard look at themselves.  The point is, we are all very similar.  We want love, security, acceptance, validity, safety for our families, appreciation, etc.  As women, we need to support our sisters, not tear them down.  Put ourselves in their shoes and realize that there's enough to go around.  There's no need to be jealous, petty or insufferable.  No one can support a woman emotionally, as well as another woman who understands where she's been.  And remember that one day, you will need the support of another woman...a fellow sister.  So, if you see a woman who has what you would like in your life, bless her and then create it in yours.  Bless her and then find your own happiness.  Bless her and then bless yourself!